Apparently it happens to many of us.
We randomly meet someone, we form a good connection, they turn our best friends in very quick time or sometimes may be more than that, and suddenly all things are messed up in life. The entire world seems to be upside down when you feel they are NOT SEPERATEBLE from your life but, here comes the twist, one day will come, that you no long care for them at the same place.
Well, the reality is- the quicker the connection develops, the quicker you move on. The whole past seems to be totally messed up you would want to concentrate in a while new direction.
The dear friend don’t seem dear anymore—you won’t have same feelings for the same person anymore. It might be hard as you think but without any specific reason or may be boredom, you tend to change your personality which differs from you earlier. Well, the concept is simple- you just outgrow few people from your life when you think they aren’t important anymore.
Just like a body, our feelings and emotions on every person grow day by day- the more you get attached to one person the more you get dependent on them blindly. And like stupid people say “have no expectations” but that’s wrong. The more you love people the more you expect from them, that’s the fact actually. The more you love someone, you need them to take care of you from the scratch and you tend to react to smallest of all the issues easily because that’s how you are depended on them. Anyone says, NEVER HAVE EXPECTATIONS ON ANYONE, is actually wrong. You would expect your partner to take care of you, when YOU LOVE THEM MORE, because you will be willing to do anything and everything for them and you expect the same. For E.G you love your boyfriend, you expect your boyfriend to remember even your dogs’s B’day?? Isn’t it??
To find a right person is not finding a RIGHT PERSON instead finding a PERSON who can be RIGHT for you. There is more value for handmade things than readymade stuff outside, which people don’t tend to realize. And this is where some people, outgrow, and distant from relationships, and hence divorce and breakups. Of course not every relation is meant to be forever, but as long as it does, whey ruin it.
There are stages in life—
First you expect a good friend, and from a good friend you expect a boyfriend, from a boyfriend you expect a husband & once the husband’s made and ready, you again want him to be your good friend??? WTF???
GOOD FRIEND => BOYFRIEND => HUSBAND => GOOD FRIEND?? These are the stages of life for every MAN. Your crush becomes your boyfriend, your boyfriend becomes husband and once the husband starts taking care of you, and feeling your responsibility then comes the ICE BREAKER = PERSONAL SPACE.
In fact for men not only the feelings has to be changed from time to time but we also need to get adjusted on emotions and equations as well. Because the more and more requirements you fulfil the more and more demands will be demanded.
When you’re not the same person, as time changes, how can you be with the same people, all the time?