Well, most the times people aren’t ready for a relationship yet. At times, we feel pressurized, could be from society or a parental pressure or sometimes the desperateness from inside of being lonely. This is not totally correct, I reckon a person must only get committed once when is fully ready that too with someone with full degree of compassion.
What I find these days with everyone is totally reverse. A guy want a partner with desperateness and a girl needs a partner with necessity. In other words, a guy want to be with a girl who may is in need of a partner. They deeply go in search of a partner with almost care and concern only to make sure they get compromised or adjusted. Like they say, you can’t find happiness, but once adjusted or make some room happiness comes sits beside you. So, years and years you wait for someone who can listen to you, and follow your orders. Phew!!! I feel that level of clarity, compassion and focus of picking a suitable partner if kept in pursuing sales target or becoming rich, and then you never know where you would reach.
I don’t believe this existed couple of years ago, but these days it’s become excessive. Well, what I mean are calculations we make for a relationship (relationship I mean be it dating someone or a marriage). A person is always calculating a strategy to pursue a person who is actually either is ‘Desperate’ or in ‘need’. What makes is more crazy is that there is no purpose of that relation at all sometimes.
I had to dismiss so called “Love marriage” concept because I don’t believe that term even exists for me at all. To be more honest, I was always been into one of the weak relations before like a ‘Giver’ or sometimes as ‘Taker’. I don’t know if I could call myself needy or desperate but that just made me realize to be more independent or stronger or self-sufficient.
My point is, what you ‘need’ and ‘want’ is life reflects your own helplessness in the face of the uncertainty of fate. Our triviality towards life and feelings, this is the reason you always keep judging people and for which most of the times you repent. And that’s why you feel sorry!!!
For all the people, I judged and no longer in touch and those who are reading this, please know that I didn’t judge you because you weren’t weak, it is because I was weak In making decisions and the fear that I might be lost again.
And for the ones who did the same to me, please also know that I forgive you.