Lots of things are happening.
Hence I have not been writing. But I think I will write a little more nowadays.
Lots of things are happening.
Lots of things are happening.
Hence I have not been writing. But I think I will write a little more nowadays.
This is a beautiful piece I came across:
What time should we eat?
What time should we sleep?
Which side we should sleep?
What time should I breakfast?
What time should I take flight?
What time should I give birth to kids?
How should the house be constructed?
Which side what should be there?
What time should I enter the house?
Same time, suggestion to get a cow inside the new house and let it shit in the house?
Finally, who should get married to whom is also decided by someone else? WTF—Crazy Telugu Astrologers #Nonsense
The astrology business in India is around 2500 crores without tax. It’s a free business without any investment. Business on poor people and their stupidity.
With a Arts Degree they get from some stupid university they scare the innocent people.
Lunar Eclipse/ Solar Exlipse—Why is not good for Hindu’s where it is very good for Tamil Nadu people. West facing house is not suitable for Hindu’s/ East Facing house is a hot cake/ When the whole planet is ROUND, how come there is EAST & WEST Sides? The house which is East side in the morning is turned to West Side in the evening? So is it bad???
Do they even know anything about Planet and Solar System? I asked an Astrologer he says, Sun is a Planet—WHAT THE F—I learnt in my Science in my school, that Sun is a Star- how come they are a planet now as per Hindus? And he also says, there are 9 planets (Navagraha)
Our week days are named after these planets & then how come the other two? Where did they come from?
Rahu and Ketu are not planets at all but they still exist? How come?
And as per Solar System- earth is one planet too, then how come Earth doesn’t exist in Navagrah??? According to Hindu mythology, Shani (a.k.a. Saturn) is the son of Surya (a.k.a. Sun). And they have rivalry between them. 2 planet where the distance between them is 1.429 billion km, how come they are Son and Father? Then who is mother?
Planets have caste? Really? So is it caste system? Or is it science?
They say, one can solve ones problem just by worshipping those planets? One question? How come a planet which is at an average distance of 1 billion miles from the Earth, how could it save me from my problems? How does it affect me at all? Please explain?
What happens to these predictions at the time of World War? Indian Vs Pakistan? Elections? Tsunami? Accidents? Why can’t they save us from these??
If I have to write an important exam which falls on Tuesday/ is it not considered good day?
When god has given two hands, how come right had is lucky and not left?
To enter into the house or temple, we should step with right leg? How come we have two legs when left leg is not good, let’s cut it then.
They call it Jyotishya Sasthram (Science) Jyothisyam is not Sasthram – SCIENCE- Its just a study for Indian’s – Astrology has been rejected by the scientific community as having no explanatory power for describing the universe. Scientific testing of astrology has been conducted, and no evidence has been found to support the premises or purported effects outlined in astrological traditions. There is no proposed mechanism of action by which the positions and motions of stars and planets could affect people and events on Earth in the way astrologers say they do that does not contradict well-understood, basic aspects of biology and physics.
They say as per my kundali Shukra (Venus) went & sat in the house of Shani (Saturn) that is why my life is miserable? WTF? Do they even know how far the planets are form each other? Appx 1,316,400,000 km- is it their relatives house to take a Uber & go? How can the planets sit on top of each other BTW? Funny!!! The distance between Sun & Earth is 149,600,000 km how will Sun affect me in my day to day life?
First of all—They call is Raasi? Stars? Im Virgo someone else is Cancer? How are they predicted? When these were written first couple of thousands of years ago, we see some stars in the Sky with a naked eye even before the Telescope was invented—So at the time I was born there were stars which looked like a Female/ Kanya Raasi—? But that is before the discoveries of billions of other stars, right now there are billions of stars which we can see in the sky? So what now then?
As per Newton’s Formula can you calculate / a planet 60 crore kms away from us? How will it affect me can you please explain?
Recent time I’ve also read somewhere- its written in Panchangam it seems that- a girls behavior/character based on her first menstruation?? How degrading this is? Isn’t Menses Cycle completely a Body related/ hormones related subject?
One mantram will solve all my problems?? Really? One Pooja will get my marriage done with a good & understanding wife?
Aryabhatta from 550 CE has already explained how Solar and Lunar eclipses were caused but we still believe that is GOOD THING and BAD THING for our lifestyles because they are formed by Rahu & Ketu Imaginary Planets? We shouldn’t eat during eclipses, shouldn’t go out during eclipses? Recently there was in paper, that a family refused to take the female for delivery because it was an eclipses day. She died later L
A man himself has developed this civilization on his own, not based on GOD? Planets and Sun Signs. Once India was very good in Science but now we don’t because of our stupidity.
We can write our fate/ We should do things which we like/ Eat what we like? Do what we want? Marry who we like? There is nothing called GOOD DAY or BAD DAY- any day is good for a good thing.
Lets live with common sense, lets follow things which we have learnt in school.
All the grown up people who I called MATURED, basically who understand LOVE- DON’T FALL IN IN IT, BUT RISE IN IT.
Apparently what I mean is Love is something you don’t fall for it, but you experience the rise of it.
Love is just a need, which wasn’t useful for you when you don’t have a lover and started to experience something totally different when you found one. Love isn’t like that which shown in movies and fairy tales/ at least not in reality with people who are doing it right. Immature couple fall in love, but for them its either a passing game or its just right for time being. But a couple who is mature, don’t fall in love, but rise in it and embrace it.
Well, let’s talk how would you know its true love? Are you doing it right? Is your relationship true just because its been couple of years you started dating?? Or is it true just because your partner is just jealous and possessive about you?
It is like this, first it could be easy but unless there passionate fights with passionate make-up’s—and unless people who believe in real time commitment with idealistic, preconceived notions- that isn’t love.
Love is just a feeling but the journey is important. When you love someone or they love you, you don’t doubt their feelings, then that’s peace of mind feeling is called LOVE. When you be with the partner and you feel some security, safety & most important peace of mind, that peace of mind which you have never had before which revives you is called LOVE
But I would say the word LOVE and all is just a trash invented my modern generation. For me LOVE should be remained as COMMITMENT. Just for an E.g. for people who all are in love, just tell them the word LOVE no longer exists & it replaced by COMMITMENT, you will see half them of breaking up already. Or would tell you honestly, that they aren’t sure about it.
An immature relationship is called LOVE while a mature relationship is called COMMITMENT.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s been couple of years of just few weeks, once you start asking question to yourself, you would get a reassurance.
I used to be an antagonist of love. I thought LOVE is just a necessity, and people used to tell me LOVE conquers all if you share your feelings with someone, I mean it means that the relationship would last longer.
Well, I think girls believe or get inspired in fairytales and movies that for them, all they need is LOVE but in reality it’s NOT actually. The ingredients of life, of course the first important is LOVE but there are many others which are needed for needed for a long-lasting partnership. Most of the time, girls tend to forget this but put on a weight on some unnecessary stuff inevitably get blinded easily.
A partnership is not just about emotions and feelings of love/ a partnership is about commitment/ sharing responsibility. As I said before, the feelings are always a VARIABLE they change from time to time while external factors interfere. The COMMITMENT is like a CONSTANT which doesn’t get effect in choosing decisions. Commitment to one’s relation is very important even while your emotions are telling you otherwise.
Because for RELATIONSHIP LOVE is enough but for LIFE COMMITMENT is very important. Love is not LIFE but love is a part of life. Well, let me clarify.
You need LOVE for LIFE but you need LIFE for SURVIVAL. Love, most of us define is not just enough for survival, for survival you need many other impotent things like, society, family, job, car & most importantly MONEY. Love is something you get attracted to—for e.g. you see a nice T SHIRT while going for shopping, you tend to like it but after purchasing it & wearing it for couple of times, your love tend to fade away. Most of us love our phones, but one Google Pixel is released your love towards iPhone will fade way. Well, its natural all the time. Once you find better things, you tend to lose your interest and your love eventually fades away. So, just when your love fades way, your commitment comes into picture.
Love makes you treat each other with kindness, respect and empathy but commitment is more about responsibility- responsibility for the partner, responsibility for their wellbeing, responsibility for their future & responsibility towards the ultimate peace of mind. Love is that feeling which makes you feel hungry in your stomach but commitment is that feeling which decides what to eat. Just when you are going through a ebb, commitment is what makes you stick together.
Love isn’t rational, it can be controlled but yet we tend be so emotional for unnecessary things and instead of being malleable we dictate our heart to follow the instructions of mind. Commitment on the other hand will guide you through the rough patch. Commitment doesn’t depend on the mind but it depends on the heart, it depends on the choices you make.
Im always little confused about people around me.
I see people try to be good when they slip sometimes, they don’t know how to forgive and I think that’s the cause of pain and hurt. Every single day, friends, family acquaintances in city, or in your own your world they will give you plenty of reasons to get angry. All I would say is, reject them and shut off. Just move on. I think it’s important to find peace within yourself than in others. We just have to remember one thing, we are all a part of a collective family.
Some days this is tough, we just have to accept and move on.
Apparently it happens to many of us.
We randomly meet someone, we form a good connection, they turn our best friends in very quick time or sometimes may be more than that, and suddenly all things are messed up in life. The entire world seems to be upside down when you feel they are NOT SEPERATEBLE from your life but, here comes the twist, one day will come, that you no long care for them at the same place.
Well, the reality is- the quicker the connection develops, the quicker you move on. The whole past seems to be totally messed up you would want to concentrate in a while new direction.
The dear friend don’t seem dear anymore—you won’t have same feelings for the same person anymore. It might be hard as you think but without any specific reason or may be boredom, you tend to change your personality which differs from you earlier. Well, the concept is simple- you just outgrow few people from your life when you think they aren’t important anymore.
Just like a body, our feelings and emotions on every person grow day by day- the more you get attached to one person the more you get dependent on them blindly. And like stupid people say “have no expectations” but that’s wrong. The more you love people the more you expect from them, that’s the fact actually. The more you love someone, you need them to take care of you from the scratch and you tend to react to smallest of all the issues easily because that’s how you are depended on them. Anyone says, NEVER HAVE EXPECTATIONS ON ANYONE, is actually wrong. You would expect your partner to take care of you, when YOU LOVE THEM MORE, because you will be willing to do anything and everything for them and you expect the same. For E.G you love your boyfriend, you expect your boyfriend to remember even your dogs’s B’day?? Isn’t it??
To find a right person is not finding a RIGHT PERSON instead finding a PERSON who can be RIGHT for you. There is more value for handmade things than readymade stuff outside, which people don’t tend to realize. And this is where some people, outgrow, and distant from relationships, and hence divorce and breakups. Of course not every relation is meant to be forever, but as long as it does, whey ruin it.
There are stages in life—
First you expect a good friend, and from a good friend you expect a boyfriend, from a boyfriend you expect a husband & once the husband’s made and ready, you again want him to be your good friend??? WTF???
GOOD FRIEND => BOYFRIEND => HUSBAND => GOOD FRIEND?? These are the stages of life for every MAN. Your crush becomes your boyfriend, your boyfriend becomes husband and once the husband starts taking care of you, and feeling your responsibility then comes the ICE BREAKER = PERSONAL SPACE.
In fact for men not only the feelings has to be changed from time to time but we also need to get adjusted on emotions and equations as well. Because the more and more requirements you fulfil the more and more demands will be demanded.
When you’re not the same person, as time changes, how can you be with the same people, all the time?
Im sure most of you by this time in your lives might have asked this question?? “Why did I do this?”
Well, lying on the bed every night we might think, if we hadn’t made a decision that day which we made. On a holiday, did we ever encounter a friend whose life was very good because of some right decisions in life? Or simply comparing with friends about your life, career and goals? Didn’t we regret anything anytime?
Apparently, REGRET seems to be a complicated word for every one of us. Our life has been loaded with too much of past and memories which haunt every day. Be it good or bad, some forgotten and some of them still we cherish. But then, we just cant run away from it. Either we might have learnt something from it, or might have been enjoying the fruits of it right now. We all have to accept our life hasn’t been same right now from the past and things aren’t the same anymore just like we thought.
Career, love, relationships or friends—life is not about perfections but it just goes through very rarely as planned, more often than not, just as you least expected—it is called DECISION MAKING.
Be it YES or NO—or somewhere we might have taken some harsh decision which changed our lives right now and our life isn’t the same just because of that decision. Well, later or not we might regret most of them. Isn’t it? Be it your breaking up with your ex- girlfriend – shouldn’t have loved the girl you have actually did. Shouldn’t have broken up with that girl whom you thought she wasn’t good for your life. Leaving your previous job, just because it didn’t pay you that much as you expected. Or making harsh decisions with family —the one friend you took it for granted and since then they started ignoring you and let you go. There might be something which left you alone and you shouldn’t have done it.
There is a saying in English—life is all about decisions—be it right or wrong, good or bad, it’s just the SUM of all.
Few leave you with happiness and few you regret.
For me, you can’t take a right decision if you haven’t crossed the wrong one. Things won’t happen as you think and want every in life. There are few people who stay with you and most of them who don’t, take chances. Change is an essence of life, you just have to experience it. Love vs heartbreak/ friends vs enemies/ pleasure vs pain/ happiness vs sorrow everything is a part of a decision which you have made in life earlier. Some give you experiences and some give you lessons to learn from it and move on.
Nobody can lead a life without regrets. For me, having regrets in life is very important. One great personality from my previous company Mr. Venkat Yerubandi once told me, “Make mistakes in life which gives you an opportunity to learn. Which teaches you what is good and bad, but only if you choose you choose to follow your heart.
LIFE IS A JOURNEY TO AN UNKNOWN DESTINATION, YOU JUST HAVE TO FOLLOW WITH THE HELP OF A GUIDE CALLED YOUR HEART—Life doesn’t have Google Maps to take as a reference.
In another few months I’m turning 29 and next year I would turn 30.
Amidst of all the nuisances which are going in my life, I’m just taking some time to think what all have crossed in my 30 years of life. More, importantly, what all I have achieved and how much time I have wasted so far, without doing nothing. What all I could have done to become more successful, so much money I’ve spent on unnecessary things?
And all I wanted to do was achieve my TODOTHINGS before 30 but it’s too late.
I might have right now earning certain amount of salary, been to couple of countries for a vacation, buy a car, buy a property and a house and has some investments for myself but certainly I could have still done more, both personally and professional I mean basically I’d been settled right now—well, so turning 30 very soon, gets me sick.
Of course, it is not the end of the world, but yet some things are gone they won’t come back most importantly TIME.
Well, we all plans our lives to live with of full of dreams and desires. Starting from school, we wanted to become something, and then in college we realize that’s not working out and change our decision and post college, we land in some job where we tend to compromise and then start to be happy with whatever we have—well, as far as I’ve considered, I’ve set a small goals, I mean small time goals for myself (5 year plan) 20-25/25-30 and I’ve achieved most of it though.
But sometimes it doesn’t always turn out to be same as you wanted, right??? What happens to us when we get older and older, we tend to forgo few things and then try to compromise or adjust in life. Just accept the failure and live with it. But sometimes we just tend to compare ourselves with others and still tend to get more disappointed. Just because we didn’t end up buying a luxury car, or don’t have enough bank balance or just because we didn’t become rich like our friends, we think we have become less successful.
Apparently, we have to realize everyone has different paths and everyone are meant for different journey. Not everyone wants to live like us. The honest fact is sometimes someone’s journey is long and someones journey is shorter but at the end everyone has to reach their destiny. The only question is, how many of you really have everything you want by 30?
As far as professionally concerned, I’m sure most of them decide their future, I mean at least have an idea so that is DONE.
Coming to love life, some of them are already married and some of them have kids already but some of them at 30 are still SINGLE.
Life is just a journey not a destination—you have to enjoy the journey maximum, some journeys are short and some of them are longer, but make the most of it.
Have you seen a wolf hunting alone in the forest? Anytime?
Well, wolfs are always in pack—they hunt, they live, they survive always together. They never leave their team. Well, that is the law of Jungle is. Wolves are all united, but, have you seen a Lion (King of the Jungle) in pride? They don’t survive in pride but they learn to be themselves all alone. They hunt, they survive, they live and they spend most of the time all alone. That is why it is called King of the Jungle.
Well, MAN is a social animal. The law of MAN is that he cannot survive alone. From his birth to death, he is always accompanied by his family or friends. Just like wolves, humans are same. We cannot live alone, survive alone, grow alone. He is always in hunt for companions who will never leave him till death.
BUT— PS: There are still few human beings who would like to live life like a LION. Who are better off being alone than with unnecessary people.
Those are the set of people who in course of life, understand and realize that they don’t need anyone to grow up or become successful, they don’t depend on anyone and reply on anyone- SOMENE LIKE ME!!!!! 😉 Tada!!
Well, human emotions are one of the most craziest ones in any survival beings. One side, he needs everyone, and when he has everyone, he needs no one. It’s a constant play between, whom he needs and whom he wants. The one he needs don’t want him and the one he wants don’t need him.
Apparently we promise to be with few people like, family, wife and friends for life long but it doesn’t take a minute for us to break the promise and walk out of someone’s life. Irony, isn’t it??? That’s life we have to live with it. Our feelings for everyone keep changing every minute, every second and it’s not same with everyone. There will be love, there will be hatred, there will be good friends there also will be enemies, there will he happiness, sorrow, depression and not to forget heartbreaks. Of course, loved ones are very important but the one who hurts us more are the those whom we keep much expectations on.
It is also about how much importance we give to the other person in life? More than ourselves or little more than everyone else? Let’s take it this way, we need family until we grow but we also learn to make decisions on our own. We needs friends who will support us but we need some space not to interfere in anyone’s life. We need peace of mind and emotional support when we are down but the same time we are still in doubt, who will help us to grow and grow with us? Whom do we trust?
While, all other than this, the major interest lies with our LOVE life. The ones who want to love us and the ones whom we love? The one who keeps no secrets from us, the ones whom we want to keep secrets from. The one who want to share their lives with us and the ones who we leave when they come for us. Some of them so important in life, we cannot imagine life without, yet, the fact there will be some point we have to live without. Be it parents, family, friends everyone has to leave at some point- that is the fact. While, you all think death inevitable, there is also called Artificial Death, where people live but they don’t exist for us. This is also inevitable. At some point this all happens with us.
Honestly, speaking from my perspective we cannot also expect everyone to say with us forever. We cannot be that selfish, to accept the fact. It is unfair. You like it or not, its better to leave few people behind and move on without them. All good things come to an end and we have to accept the fact and move on with it. Well, if you don’t, the longer you stay, the longer they depend on you and cannot live independently. When life gives you new bonds it is difficult to hold on when you are not in that capacity. STRONG BONDS DON’T LAST LONG.
You love your parents, but it is unavoidable that you have to live without them at some point. You love your friends, but once they get married they have their own lives to take care. You love your sister, but after her marriage, she is no more your family member.
As far as the life partners are concerned, it is not always a cake walk—most of the marriages are either compromise or adjustment but when the going gets tough, the tough gets going. All that you can do it MAKE IT WORK or SUCK AT IT. Some people cross that barrier while for some it may not. Some succeed, some don’t.
There is this saying, “THE LESS YOU EXPECT FROM PEOPLE THE MORE HAPPY YOU BE”. I mean of course I’m not asking to stay everyone independently without marriage without friends, but trying to be as you are, in your own terms is important. The term might sound disgusting, but it doesn’t seem like it when you actually follow. You can’t expect to stay with you in all your tough times, you have to start making things on your own and be on your own, fall on your own and stand up on your own.
We are often confused from selecting people whom to trust, but there is more happiness in trusting yourself and being in your own company than look for someone for mental, emotional and physical support.
You come alone, you go alone—why this nuisances in life?? Why is that we always seek happiness from someone else??? To a certain extent is OK but you can’t make that a habit. Start making decisions on your own, rather than compromising for your parents, or friends or society. Look for support where you can grow in life, but don’t get influenced from bad company.
Don’t expect your best friend to be there with you always.
Don’t expect that parents will always support you.
Don’t expect to get married to your dream girl or a boy.
Don’t compromise in life or get influenced by the society.
Be like a LION, hunt when you need and go back to your den.