Way of life..

Like they say- Life is about attachments, but for me I feel life is not about attachments. You have to live your life, like the way you want. It’s about picking up the things which are good for you and leaving behind what you don’t like & need. It’s like learning from the lessons from the past and having to improve your standard of living. Like our cellphones and computers, our heart and mind has limited space in it—store what is required and delete what is unnecessary.

We unnecessarily get attached to so many things in life and in the due course we forget to live in the present and be happy. I like to sum of few unnecessary things (FOR ME) which aren’t to be bothered in life. We always give importance to things which are superficial and which can be bought by money. We glue ourselves to useless people and feel depressed. I have ready in one article—as per monks, what they say is- a large happiness comes with fewer attachments. The more the layers, the less the peace of mind. As you travel in life, remember to let go what burdens you.

I like to sum of few unnecessary things (FOR ME) which aren’t to be bothered in life.

THE APPROVAL—

People are going to have an opinion on you anyway. So don’t waste your time on their opinion. Its good if you take a suggestion or an advice but don’t waste time on bothering about it.

SOCIAL MEDIA-

These platforms are useless which only makes you compare how your friend is more happier than you. If you don’t want to compare your life with anyone or don’t want to get jealous of your ex posting pictures with, get out of social media immediately.  Trust me, we survived without it all this while, so we can live without it too.

SEX-

Sex is just a need of a human body. Of course, human body needs have to be met but that’s not a soul connection. I always feel there are other things which you could do instead like having a pizza. Either way, your time is more previous than having it with a wrong person who is not good in bed.

TIME-

Time and tide waits for none. So whatever it is, time just don’t wait for you. So stop counting the time and live the moment. Live by counting your memories not the minutes.

EX-

There is a saying—“Whats done is done”. So there is no point in holding on to it. Delete it away, before it makes things worse.

SHORT TIME HAPPINESS:

You think its good and beautiful but once they are out everywhere you lose their value. I mean giving importance to things, once you start seeing it everywhere you suddenly want to get rid of it.

DECISION:

Taking decision – if you are so  afraid to take a decision, it will get you nowhere. If you want to do something just do it that’s all. It will keep you shackled for some time, but at least you won’t regret not doing it.

PAST:

It is so called “PAST” because there is a reason. Brining your past in your present and future will take you nowhere. All that past can teach is you a lesson but it cant stop you from taking decisiona or being happy in the present or future.

VIDEO GAMES:

I know it’s a pleasure but I would rather consider reading a newspaper or an article or a blog than spending while night playing Candy Crush. Video games or television makes you lazy.

ADDICTION TO TECHNOLOGY:

If you are using anything and everything in your daily life out of technology then there is no need of human brains. So avoid technology as much as possible.

REGRETS:

It’s over, you can’t do anything now. So stop bothering about and wasting your time and energy. Let it go- you have done wrong, you apologized and leave it.

DREAMS:

Stop dreaming and make it possible. When you can dream you can make it possible too.

ADDICTION TO DRUGS

I call bad friends as drugs. A bad friend is as dangerous as a drug, so stop getting addicted to them.

PARENTS MONEY:

They have given you birth and you go make it possible. If you don’t earn to learn your own money, just stop living. If they give you 5000 you have to be in a position to make it into 50000- the joy if life will come from making it yourself rather than depending on someone.

APPROVAL:

Stop waiting for an approval from society. You know, all the great inventions in the history are the things which were not approved by the society then. Those who withstand the pressure are those who can stay for long.

PEOPLE:

Stop being connected with bad people be it friend or family. You know who they are, so just avoid. They are the one who will always leave you with a bad remark. They are very good usually in front of you once you turn your back they spit on you. So, avoid them.

DOUBT:

Stop living in doubt- Do research and start implementing.

COMPARISON:

Comparison will only make you feel bad. You can’t compare oranges to lemons to apples. You have your own way of living so set your own standards.

DIET:

I know some people are starve themselves to look young and lean. Total waste- Workout for living healthy life but eat what you like. Don’t give importance for others feelings what they say how you look? Life is not only about green salad from Subway, it also about friend chicken from KFC too.

FILTERS:

Stop using filters of your life just like you use filters to look beautiful in photographs. Show what you have and what you can do. Stop being fake.

DEAD END:

If there is a closed behind you, there is no need to look back. If there is no option, then stop worrying about it.

Quick note for today..

It’s been really long time I haven’t slept like I used to before. I’m not getting enough sleep. May be lack of peace of mind. I have to change, we can’t faff around forever.

I took up a new short term freelance stuff in the morning to pay my credit card bills from last month but that is yet to complete. Yuge amount of credit card bill pending from last month (almost beyond the card limit), I wish someone borrows me some money or their unused 500s/1000s instead of throwing or surrendering it to the Govt for 200% tax.

I had to get through this otherwise, office work being slow due to holiday up ahead I don’t think so I can overcome. The work has been pending since long but yet not finished—not sure but just not finding peace of mind to finish anything. Just trying to deviate my mind from some issues, but literally not happening. The past is stuck like rust in my head.

You know what they always say, a blank mind is like a blank paper, where you can write anything and wipe anything but we forget the fact that paper can be destroyed once used, but mind, you see, if something written can’t be erased to easily, especially when you write is so hard.

Anyway I’m going to come back to the blog in a regular way now. I think I will writing on different things as usual like before. Even if it is to put a comma on the page and shut down, I shall promise to continue..

Sometimes letting go makes you stronger..

I had to finish some pending work & I grunted & finished. Work is to average actually, need to figure out a way to improve.

Well, there is one more thing I wanted to share with you all guys, which is so similar to what’s going on in my life actually.

The other day I watched an interview of Kajol & Ajay Devgn. In fact they were promoting their movie ‘Shivaay’ & in the middle an interviewer her few questions which actually moved me a lot.

Well, the interviewer asked her how she felt, when she wasn’t invited for the 21st anniversary of her evergreen blockbuster movie ‘DDLJ’. Kajol was totally lost & couldn’t speak a word. Then the interviewer asked again if she had lost her connections with her old friends Karan Johar & Adi Chopra. I could clearly see that her eyes were gone wet.  I don’t know but it really moved me.

Well, it is like this, at some point of time in life, we (everyone) have had faced this situation that unknowingly we have either lost our love or best friends without any explanation. We can cope up with a loss of money but we can’t over the pain of losing someone we loved/cared a lot. I see one of the reason is: As we get older our priorities change. But this is very odd isn’t it that when you look back in time & ask for an explanation why you stopped being friends with someone, or would you be friends again in the near future?

Think about it guys, how many of you lost- your love interest, school friends, college friends, neighbor’s, office colleagues without an explanation just because you moved your house, just because you quit your office, just because you did some mistake & he/she didn’t forgive you, just because of your ego & attitude? Do you have an answer that would you be friends again?

I could relate that Kajol moment to me. The way she looked so confused & helpless is the same with me right now.

May be this is another way of friendship that, you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life. Sometimes letting go makes you stronger.

Try to forgive me..

Being sorry is very hard when we are completely dwelled in arrogance

But sometimes our arrogance and ignorance takes us apart and that’s where we lose,

But when it all ended a meaningful Sorry will just become a broken promise.

 

It only hurts at the end, what it brought me was resentment,

Yet can’t believe lost the love which was supposed to be eternal

Brining me back to earth from the fairy-tale world

And the pain is exasperating and sometimes more frustrating.

 

My heart is weeping in the tears of blood, for the pain I’ve caused to you

But its crying out my apologies you think it’s not true.

Pleading you for forgiveness for some unfortunate actions of mine,

I never meant to be happened, in this life, to be so unkind.

 

Honestly, I did make mistakes in the past but never as painful as this,

And I know there is nobody else to blame when you leave, and what I miss.

This part of life is more scary that I’ve ever thought in my life

For you were my true soul mate and the only real thing which I believe.

 

Now when I look back, everything else remain a fantasy

For my egoistic behavior you suffered too long,

For all my life it’s just been ME, ME, ME, not giving a thought to your concerns

And now I realize, what I thought was right was absolutely wrong.

 

You were a true light when I was lost,

And yet all I cared about was me and what was mine,

You were a true partner in my uncertainty and sorrow

But it’s too late, I now feel the anger and the pain.

 

Now what is left, except to say Sorry in a most sincere way,

Please accept the apology which is hidden deep inside my soul.

What I had was your love and loyalty,

But I just regret that love and loyalty I couldn’t hold.

 

I now only have your memories which aren’t lost,

And that saddened smile when I think of your name.

And my heart still yearns to turn back time,

To correct the mistakes and to start it again.

 

I know you won’t believe, if I said all this is coming from the heart,

and the punishment you have given us to be apart.

And if otherwise you have already threw me out of your life forever-

But my head will always bend down in shame for the fact that you would come back never.

Tough Times Ahead..

What amazed me is about tough days in life and how they always come to an end. Hard times continue longer but good times stay with you for sometime. The dark road which you take towards success is often very far and the legacy of success seems to be total tough. But with a potent nugget of effort you put to drive through the way that’s when the light begins.

You always have to brace yourself to pass through and wait for it. Slowly, slowly, the time will pass and the tough road will come to end end.

May be that’s how life is..

Desperate Or Needy?

Well, most the times people aren’t ready for a relationship yet. At times, we feel pressurized, could be from society or a parental pressure or sometimes the desperateness from inside of being lonely. This is not totally correct, I reckon a person must only get committed once when is fully ready that too with someone with full degree of compassion.

What I find these days with everyone is totally reverse. A guy want a partner with desperateness and a girl needs a partner with necessity. In other words, a guy want to be with a girl who may is in need of a partner.  They deeply go in search of a partner with almost care and concern only to make sure they get compromised or adjusted. Like they say, you can’t find happiness, but once adjusted or make some room happiness comes sits beside you. So, years and years you wait for someone who can listen to you, and follow your orders. Phew!!! I feel that level of clarity, compassion and focus of picking a suitable partner if kept in pursuing sales target or becoming rich, and then you never know where you would reach.

I don’t believe this existed couple of years ago, but these days it’s become excessive. Well, what I mean are calculations we make for a relationship (relationship I mean be it dating someone or a marriage). A person is always calculating a strategy to pursue a person who is actually either is ‘Desperate’ or in ‘need’. What makes is more crazy is that there is no purpose of that relation at all sometimes.

I had to dismiss so called “Love marriage” concept because I don’t believe that term even exists for me at all. To be more honest, I was always been into one of the weak relations before like a ‘Giver’ or sometimes as ‘Taker’. I don’t know if I could call myself needy or desperate but that just made me realize to be more independent or stronger or self-sufficient.

My point is, what you ‘need’ and ‘want’ is life reflects your own helplessness in the face of the uncertainty of fate. Our triviality towards life and feelings, this is the reason you always keep judging people and for which most of the times you repent. And that’s why you feel sorry!!!

For all the people, I judged and no longer in touch and those who are reading this, please know that I didn’t judge you because you weren’t weak, it is because I was weak In making decisions and the fear that I might be lost again.

And for the ones who did the same to me, please also know that I forgive you.

Life is hope..

Sometimes the survival feels like you are fighting a battle. It feels broken, lonely and isolated.

We always believe our confidence and ideas for life will be true until the day life duped you. The end of confidence is the changing moment. That moment you feel there is nothing to hang on, your life becomes empty and fraught. You curse the time and even before you realize, the damage is already done.

That’s when you need to find a new direction for life, something new to believe in to continue living. And most of the times is the way of thinking and its possible only with YOU! Life is all about belief which makes your survival easy, some hope, a ray of light for you to continue living.

It’s a war between, Emotions And Feelings And Logical Mind Vs Emotional Heart!!!!

So, please happy with yourself because the world is very very very hard on us.

A Love Story..

It wasn’t an easy road he has taken- he has worked at a call center at nights, saving every penny to run his everyday life. He also played a role of a daily marketing executive on weekends to get some extra money. All his life was about to earn money and take care of the family- he couldn’t lose an opportunity to find a penny and save it. He proved it that ‘Success doesn’t come to you, you run for it’ was true notion. He deserved every bit of it right now.

She loved him of course, he knew it too. But his dreams were more important than anything else. He admired her every bit and always appreciated her  hard work and perseverance. She always reminded him of a mirror image and a male version of his own.

He lost his father at a young age and had to take care of his family—ever since day his dad passed away, he juggled many jobs, barely making any savings hardly enough to pay the rent and run the home.

All he thought was “Together” will be the only place, when he first saw her. His heart ached, when he imagines a life without her. He is still missing the comfort in her arms, spark in his life and the laughter at the silliest jokes. Now life has begun to teach him that, roses doesn’t have thorns, it’s the thorns which have roses. The magic was felt without a word being spoken, just by a single touch. In her presence it felt like a lightning struck. Not sure, but his heart always pulls to her like a magnet, why?? Almost every meeting they had, was with passion and indulgence of their souls. Be it a coffee, or a dinner or a brisk walk it was with mounted passion. But he knew, the “Perfect” moment wouldn’t last long.

The time is gone and it’s time to accept the truth. He had to face it. All that it runs in the mind right now is running through life is hard, but accepting the facts of life is the hardest.

Well, people always think – ‘Goodbye’ & ‘Let Go’ are almost the same but there is a difference. Goodbye means, perhaps will meet again, when I’m ready and you are but ‘Letting Go’ is I’ll miss you to eternity. That’s when you realize it’s not YOU but someone else will hold her hands.

Then he realized “I thought your absence would transform me but it made me realize who I am.”

Don’t Breathe

Don’t breathe – definitely it doesn’t let you breath for the entire movie. Apt title!

Well, what an excellent movie. No hungama, not posh locations, no huge star cast. Shot entirely in a single apartment with a minimum characters.

Well, the movie is about a blind man defending his property against three intruders. Fighting to save his wealth from three greedy young kids and becomes successful in doing so.

Basically the movie teaches everyone a lesson that, if you are powerful in your way, and have set you boundaries to defend what you have, then no disability or anything in the whole planet will steal that away from you.

 

Definitely a worth watch!